ByI don’t remember the exact day I heard about prenuptial agreement (A contract between two people made before marriage or civil union, for example, stating the division of property if the couple divorce). But I remember it came as a trend on the internet when a footballer signed one before getting married to his spouse. At that time, I didn’t know what it meant. So I paid no attention to the news. But until recently, it has been a widespread practice amongst some men in many countries. And since we live in an information-saturated world, I understood that it’s unwise to follow what others are doing just because it’s popular.
Jesus is my Lord, so I must submit to His ways, and I can’t use my life to do whatever I like. This article might seem offensive to unbelievers. But do read it to the end to understand what the Bible says about this whole practice, lest you get deceived.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. – Genesis 2:25 (NKJV)
There’s a law in Biblical interpretation called “The law of first mention.” It states that the best definition of a Biblical word is in the first verse it got mentioned. Nowhere in the scriptures will you see “prenuptial agreement.” But I do believe that it got indirectly mentioned in Genesis 2:25.
God joined Adam and Eve together as man and wife. And when He did it, even after doing it, they were both naked and felt no shame. God’s glory covered them to the extent that sharing whatever each spouse had with each other was not a problem. There was nothing to hide, and they had no issues with their marriage until the devil showed up and made them fall short of that glory due to sin.
Now prenuptial agreement, based on its definition, is a demonic scheme employed by the devil to breed mistrust and selfishness. And these are vices God is working out in many people.
In marriage or even God-made dating relationships, the deeper the intimacy, the more the layers of self are removed because of consistent sharing of life with each other through communication. So once there’s an agreement to keep some properties apart, it’s first an ungodly mentality and secondly, an attack on the nakedness (transparency) of spouses to each other, which is against God’s code for model marriage.
In marriage or even God-made dating relationships, the deeper the intimacy, the more the layers of self are removed because of consistent sharing of life with each other through communication.
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Prenuptial agreement amongst Christians is unnecessary
No one goes into a relationship knowing the other person entirely. But before marriage, there’s at least a build-up of a level of intimacy that is strong enough to make each person trust the other. Once prenuptial agreement sets in, one person, especially the female, becomes insecure in the future because the other one with more money or possessions will tend to be more protective of himself rather than letting “self” go.
God is on a mission to expel selfishness in the hearts of His children through marriage, and prenuptial agreement is against this mission. As a child of God, I’d urge you not to sign it because of God’s principles. But even before that, choose and marry who you decide to spend your entire life with very wisely in the Lord.
If all that belongs to the Father is Jesus’, and the same Father has made Jesus the head of all things for the church, then in marriage, there’s no space to hide possessions; because the relationship Jesus has with the Church is the same as replicated in godly marriages of today.
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All I have is Yours, and all you have is mine.
When Jesus was praying for the disciples in John 17, He said in verse 10 that,
“All I have is yours, and all you have is mine. And glory has come to me through them.”
My emphasis is on the first part of the scripture. It’s such a powerful declaration that deals with prenuptial agreement at its root. Here’s why.
If all that belongs to the Father is Jesus’, and the same Father has made Jesus the head of all things for the church (see Ephesians 1:22), then in marriage, there’s no space to hide possessions; because the relationship Jesus has with the Church is the same as replicated in godly marriages of today.
Friend, I want to urge you not to fall into the enemy’s trap by signing a prenuptial agreement. It can plague your marriage with intimacy lack since your spouse will find it hard trusting in you. Love protects the common good of all and is not selfish or overprotective of possessions. You’re a blessing.
